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The holidays can be tricky for the divorced crowd. Whether it’s the first, second, or twenty-second Christmas, Hanukkah, or Kwaanza following their divorce, your divorced friends, family, and yes, even your ex, could experience a rush of emotions and surprise visits from the ghosts of holidays past.

Aside from an invitation, phone call, or handwritten note to let them know you’re thinking of them, a great way to lift the spirits of the special divorced guys and gals in your life is to add them to your holiday shopping list. Who wouldn’t love a holiday gift that speaks directly to…

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People divorce for a variety of reasons. But one thing remains clear: divorce can bring out the worst in people, including your soon-to-be-ex. Even if your spouse appeared level-headed and emotionally stable during your marriage, divorce could turn your relationship — and them — toxic. Here are eight scary behaviors to watch out for from your ex and advice on how to react.


Common among narcissists, anyone can use this psychological tactic to throw an ex off their game. The person doing the gaslighting wants to make their victim feel as if they’re going crazy. To accomplish this, they…

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So you’re married to someone you suspect is a narcissist and hope to leave them. Unfortunately, divorcing a narcissist isn’t usually quite as simple as saying, “I want a divorce.”

Narcissists have a different thought process than those who don’t exhibit the behaviors of this often undiagnosed personality disorder. The result? You need to think about your next move and every move after it so you can stay one step ahead and out of their way as much as possible.

The first step in divorcing a narcissist is deciding if your spouse demonstrates characteristics typical of a narcissist. Something to…

Elise Buie, Esq.

Elise Buie is a Seattle-based family and divorce lawyer and founder of the ​Elise Buie Family Law Group​.

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